When I was 15 I took up guitar lessons. Despite my love and interest in it, these only lasted a year. Why? I quit so that I could go to my high school’s baseball games, which were conflicting with the time of my guitar lessons... so that I could see a boy I liked. This boy ultimately ended up my first boyfriend and would break my heart by cheating on me. This would scar my self-confidence causing me to be extremely jealous and suspicious of my next boyfriend, resulting in the end of that relationship.
Six years and some boys later, I picked up guitar again and realized I still love to play. I struggled to learn again and constantly thought about how improved I would be if I had continued playing throughout the years. I drove myself crazy beating myself up for it until I realized how useless it was to spend time dwelling on what could have been. I could use all that frustration and time to actually teach myself something! This realization changed the way I thought of my life and myself. I improved on my own at guitar and dealt with my issues of insecurity in my relationships.
These lessons are there for a reason and it is necessary to reflect from them. Life has a funny way of revealing things to you and it may not always be clear until you have the perspective to look back from. So be thankful for these kinds of experiences and know that now, they are over, and it is your choice whether to learn from them or to forever repeat them. Admitting our faults is far from easy, but it is necessary for one of the most essential things in the world – growth. No one is perfect and I guarantee you the ones that seem close are only there by learning from their mistakes. I know some of my most valuable lessons were learned from the things I messed up on and that is ok because they lead me in the direction I want to go in.
What’s a lesson you had to learn the hard way?